Everyone’s journey to change their gambling is different; there’s no single “right” order to take these steps. You might start with one, come back to another later, or repeat steps along the way. It’s about finding what works for you or someone you care about.
Sometimes it’s hard to know for sure especially if you’re worried about a loved one. Our anonymous self-assessment can help you reflect on your situation.
You’ll also see what gambling harm can look like, from money stress to changes in mood, relationships, and daily life and get tailored ideas for support.
Use our Gambling Spend Calculator to see how much gambling is costing you. It can be eye-opening and help you decide if you want to make changes.
You don’t have to do these in order, start with the one that feels right for you or your whānau.
Sometimes gambling draws us in like a “rabbit role” a mix of excitement, routine, and emotional escape. Knowing what hooks you in can help you choose the right tools to break that cycle.
Quitting or cutting back isn’t always a straight path. Slipping back into old habits doesn’t mean you’ve failed but it is a chance to learn and try again. Healing takes time, courage, and support.
If You’re Supporting a Loved One
Not sure how to bring it up? We have tools, skills, and approaches to help you talk with someone about gambling harm in a way that feels safe and respectful.
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Asian Family Services offers a free, confidential and anonymous phone service for Asian communities living in New Zealand available in several different Asian languages and English. If you’re stressed about your gambling or worried about some else's, we can help.
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